Credit to #Jamie George #ExucutiveCoach for sharing this wonderful concept:
What seems so obvious to us is usually based on our experiences that we paid attention to and the theories we developed based upon them, of which lead to our judgements and then created our belief system individually or as a group.
It is a great awareness to understand what we consider as real or obvious might not be necessarily the absolute reality or the truth even if we as a big group share the same belief or judgment.
There are many times that we refer to common sense to justify our point of view, when I was about to refer to it recently, I asked myself this question “Common Sense to whom?” and I realized what I perceive as common sense, is probably to me, my family, my community / culture and there are so many people out there in the world with a different view on this topic.
Even when I look back at my own beliefs of 10, 5 or even 2 years ago, I notice some changes; I was so sure of things that I am not anymore, and this is a good indicator to pay attention to the things I am so sure of them today or things seem so obvious to me at this point of time!
Science is this way too as it is mostly based on experience; one day there was only Newtonian physics, and its principles were so obvious till man learned about quantum physics and lots of new ideas were introduced, since then there have been lots of changes to what scientists consider obvious…
A good way to gauge this, is the motives; Is it about “Right” or “Wrong” or is it about “True” or “False”? The approach of true or false will usually lead us to testing, however when we think we are right we close the door to testing and assessing; Once we operate from a “True or False” mindset, we will go deeper to verify and validate our perception and we will be able to explore and discover lots of new information which can impact our perceptions.
A simple example is that when someone who lives in Africa is talking to a person who lives in Alaska on the phone, he says it is a beautiful warm sunny day and the person in Alaska says no it is not, it’s a cold snowy night; both info is true in their own contexts and there is no right or wrong, it just is the way it is. Many arguments can be replaced by constructive discussion and mutual understanding just by going deep and analyze the context and true motives of the parties.
Some years ago, I believed that discussion (even if intense) is the most efficient tool to resolve conflicts and build deep relationships which actually worked to some extent but as I grew and learned more, I realized there are more effective ways to enhance relationships of which when you apply those, you may not need to discuss issues at all and still see transformational results.
Therefor I believe it is all about learning, it is all about growing our awareness at all times, in other words: moving from the mindset of “I know it all” to “I am learning, adapting & evolving”.
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